Since I was using amusement park metaphors last time, I might as well continue. If October was a rollercoaster, then November was the scenic train ride – steady, safe and ultimately a bit boring.
It doesn’t sound like a dream life – and it’s not – but it feels good to have regained balance.
“Leap, and the net will appear.”
November is always a tough month, with the relentless darkness and looming deadlines. The people that pass you by in the streets seem less human, more like huddling shapes, covered by their huge coats, trying to lean away from the freezing wind as they walk.
In Helsinki, November is the darkest, most depressing month of the year. January is the runner-up for the title, at least once the New Year’s glow has worn off.
However, this year it hasn’t been so bad. I’ve come out of it feeling a little bit smarter, and a tiny bit wiser. This is what I’ve learned:
- you don’t have to feel happy every day
- losing your balance can be the thing that helps you get stronger than ever
- your gut knows what’s right for you, and you should continue to trust it
- some people will never see the best in you and that’s okay
Like I said, November means deadlines. I had three different occasions where I had to bring my A-game. Many things turned out great, but most of the outcomes weren’t quite what I was hoping for.
It’s a strange feeling when you’ve done everything you could, but you still didn’t win.
This time of year is always an interesting combination of seasonal cheer and a sinking feeling of not having achieved everything you wanted for the year. But lately, I have no regrets, which is wonderful. Losing isn’t always so bad.
Other things that happened this month
- I’ve never been this early with the Christmas decorations (I read somewhere that people that put them out earlier are happier than those who don’t)
- It’s been snowing a lot and then melting on the ground
- My Amazon orders seem to have gotten lost on the way
- I’m currently reading a book called “The Untethered Soul”, and it will definitely be on a reading recommendations list of mine
- Hair mousse works wonders, it turns out
Sometimes I tell people that I have a self-development blog. Sometimes they ask me “so what do you know about it?”. It throws me off guard.
I’ve never felt that I’m an expert on self-development. When I was deciding what the subject matter for my blog would be, I was trying to find something that I could write about for a very long time to come. This was it.
I’m fascinated by the idea of success as a result of hard work and intelligence. I’m fascinated by that through determination and pure will, you can become the best possible version of yourself.
When it comes to personal experience, I’m a completely different person from who I was 5 years ago, even 2 years ago. Now I work for things. Now I believe in myself, but I’m not afraid of receiving criticism and learning from it.
When things go right, I move on to the next challenge. When things go wrong, I’m kinder to myself and to others as well.
Change is rarely sudden. It happens day by day, one decision at a time. But it does happen, if you do it right, which is why this continues to be fun for me.